Your Questions on “Our Problems in Life – Awakening” Questions – across 4 x Tiers of the F4L.
After reading the previous “Awareness” material, you are invited to consider a few reflective questions on this generic subject, all designed to stimulate any “Awakenings” you might have in regard to the content you have read. The reading may have prompted already certain thoughts in regard to your own some of your own Problems in Life. You should consider placing these original thoughts within one of the 4 tiers of the Framework for Life (F4L).
Tier 1 – Physical Body-centred Self
You will already be aware, one of the most common reason for many ordinary people not being able to solve their own problems is the pace of life in across modern western society. We are expected to work longer, lomger hours, harder, more productively and think faster. Thanks to the internet we can communicate we each other all around the world in an instance. Each new app, new gadget, new device makes things so much easier, requiring our brain to absorb far more information, to make decisions faster and to physically grow more neural connections and expand in their thickness to cope. Being overweight is probably one of the more pronounced physical by-products of this fast couch-potato life, where ordinary people choose strategies to spent their idle time on pre-occupations specifically designed to take their mind off these problems. Little wonder these problems persist!
- What are your known Big Hard Problems in Life, be they Self-inflicted (like being overweight) or Circumstantial (like being un-employed)? Consider using the “Wheel of Life” touched upon in the opening Awareness read on “Our Problems in Life” to consider the relative priority of your known “Big Hard Problems in Life”, which are discussed in a future read to follow.
- What are the identifiable or common causes to these (boredom, stress, anxiety, loneliness, anger, pain, sleep deprivation, frustration, etc).?
- What is your technique(s) for identifying and prioritising these problems and causes awhether they might be a manifestation from re-using strategies that are well passed their use-by date?
- Do you find your physical body becoming more stressed, for we are told that our work:life balance are a “basket case” from us traveling longer, working longer hours, taking more pills, financial stress, all in the name of dealing with the “pressures of life”?
- Are the material pleasures of life making you happier?
Tier 2 – Physical Mind-centred Self
In simplistic terms, the main reason for people having persistent big hard problems in it’s a struggle between your subconscious and conscious minds. A struggle within the context of you wanting to and committed to losing weight and keeping it off. Despite your previous efforts you either failed to achieve this or failed to get sufficiently motivated to even get seriously started. That is about to change. But first lets better journalise your feelings on your overweight problems.
- Identify situations in your life where (despite your best efforts) you frequently re-act or feel differently than you believe you should. Your responses to the above are more likely one/many of the situations that are associated with a particular anchors (triggers causing particular behaviours). One of the common triggers is boredom (depression and anxiety) and the associated need for “comfort food” as a mechanism for taking your mind off your problems.
- For each of the situations identified above, describe in detail the emotions or feelings you usually experience (Amazement, surprise, anger, betrayal, relief, sadness, happiness, contentment, shock, confusion, intrigue, doubt, denial, etc.)
- What did each of these emotions teach you about yourself and your current journey through life?
- Did this brief period of reflect (documented in your personal journal) stimulate any potential changes you might consider or any anything which you might be more mindful in living your everyday “now” life?
Our subconscious mind is most often the underlying cause of our “Big Hard Problems in Life'”. It does much more than just remember our constant repetition of actions, habits, thoughts, and ideas that go through it each and every day of our life. This barrage of information actually creates our subconscious mind – and in-turn creates you. Your subconscious mind operates in autopilot, whereas your conscious mind is set to manual where you have control. Our two minds are in a constant state of struggle. In the main our subconscious mind (by default) typically wins. This clever subconscious mind of ours can thereby be our main downfall when it comes to our problems in life, as many things entrenched in our subconscious mind are helpful. Why, because our unconscious mind is hardwired or programmed with many bad habits, thoughts and ideas than when defaulted to keep our problems persisting and being re-enforced as too hard to change (eg. obesity). Because our subconscious mind is maluable, like plasticine, it is possible to reprogramme our conscious mind to replace the old programmes or apps with new ones more in-line with strategies that will solve our big problems. As few people are capable of successfully reprogramming their subconscious mind with our specialist help, a “self-help” technique proven to enable this is called NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), which is constantly referred to in Tier 2 for self-help.
Tier 3 – Soul-centred Self
Tiers 3 is primarily about identifying with your “Shadow-Self” – the self you are now and the gap between who you know you want to be. Your soul is that reflective space between yourself and who you really want to be, based upon the meaningful experiences of your life or others you respect. Deep down inside there is a self-perception of the real you. It’s the doorway through which you must pass into the life you wish to live, with depth and passion. In this case the shadow-self is that person with problem(s) for which there are many excuses for being like that. In your heart and soul you know this is not your authentic-self. Deep down there is the real you inside that wants to get out; a person seeking to enjoy life by leading a good life. Your conscious mind contains programs that have strong negative emotional content associated with particular situations and events in your past life that typically keep being repeated. These programs are triggered by situations that arise in your everyday now life. Emotions regarding poor choices and purchasing decisions, bad habits, pier pressure and avoidances; none of which are currently controllable by your conscious mind. Your heart and soul are “not in it”; they are not really a part of your authentic life. Once you have identified where and why you have failed to make the “right” decisions in your life and when you choose to continue to live in places of delusion, illusion or denial, then you begin to realise the clues as to what are causing your problems. Places and situations in your life where you know you really do not want to continue because they are contributing to your problems. Its mainly in your sub-conscious mind and regaining control of your conscious mind in reflecting your soul.
“We do not see things as they are; we see things as we are.” The Talmud
- Recall recent times when situations have arisen that were the opportunity to lead a healthier life, yet you defaulted to those old habits (eg. eating out with friends at a fast food restaurant where you and your friends enjoy unhealthy fatty and sweet food but in your heart and soul you knew this is not good for you in the longer term).
- What event(s) trigged you to get into this tempting situation (eg. when friends call and ask “Would you like to join us for dinner this evening”). You know you need to be stronger in terms of your will power. Either avoiding such situations by choosing to eat elsewhere; situations where healthy food is available and where you can experience your authentic-self.
- What were you attracting to yourself or fearful of (eg. criticism, being different, comfort food)?
- Which ones have you been attracting for most of your life (eg. friends seeming to prefer my shadow-self, boredom, loneliness, craving for more food knowing you have eaten enough)?
Tier 4 – Spirit-centred Self (Optional)
For those who believe in God, there are some very straight forward questions to reflect upon in your conversation with the God you know loves you just as you are and also loves you to be the best you can be in your life right now. There is nothing intrinsically wrong with being overweight. But with a well-informed conscious mind reflecting upon the full ramifications of your overweight situation, you can become fully empowered in your response – “I am …” from a self-reflective perspective and “We are …” from your social perspective. Accepting that you attract these situations to yourself, you accept responsibility for your current state (self-inflicted) and for undertaking the known self-help strategy to avoid unhealthy food and correct yourself. Accepting that the experience of every trigger situation is an opportunity for you with God to freely heal yourself in the knowledge that this process is pleasing to God as well.
Very powerful social responses like – I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, can open the way for you to communicate to others the change in you and for them to identify with who you really are and what we are as a society in seeking to live a good (healthy) life together. Experiencing faith in yourself and God, hope in your future with God and love of your authentic self and of others in God, you become empowered to fully accept responsibility for who you are who you are and who you choose to be with God as your guide.
One passage in the Christian Bible that is worth reflecting upon is that written by St. Paul in his second letter to the Corinthians (8:7.9. 13-15) when he was reflecting upon how generous Jesus was : “He was rich, but he became poor for your sake, to make you rich out of his poverty. This does not mean that to give relief to others, you ought to make things difficult for yourselves: it is a question of balancing what happens to be your surplus now against their present need, and one day they may have something to spare that will supply your own need. That is how we strike a balance: as scripture says: The man who gathers much had none too much, the man who gathered too little did not go short.”
Journalising Your Authentic-Self.
The above are a few generic questions provided for you to consider in reflecting upon who you really are when it comes to your general problems as structured across a Framework for Life (F4L). Please do not be constrained in your reflections by containing your reflective journal entry just these questions. Any other questions and your associated self-response should be positioned within one of the four F4L tiers. Be fully empowered to raise whatever awakenings occur as you reflect on the awareness material you have read and the experiences of your own life. Those issues you feel are at the heart of your own unique situation, your own problems, the complete SWOT analysis of self. The journal is your personal contribution to your own Framework for Life, for you living a good life.
Simply download the above material as a framework document to your own highly personal journal to ensure its privacy and security stored on your own PC. A contribution to your overweight/obesity problem. Re-read what you have written until you can say “Yes, this is how I feel right now on my particular problem (or on this subject generally)”.
You can download a PDF with these questions here: Awakening Self-Questioning
In order to use this PDF, you should first save the file to your computer and then enter your personal information into the form and save it.
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